Monday, June 25, 2012

Declan's First Birthday Party

Today we had Declan's first Birthday Party! I feel like a gigantic jerk because there were a TON more people that I would have invited if we had more room here.

I originally planned to design my own theme and make it. When I ran out of time, I went to the next best option... Etsy. I found a theme design that I really liked and decided that's what I would be doing. I actually enjoyed making all of the things for the party too!

We kept the food simple. Ham and cheese Wraps, Tuna Rolls, Lebanese Meat Pies (from Sam's Bakery in Fall River, MA!), Broccoli Casserole, Jack Daniels Wings, Caprese Bites and a Fresh fruit Bowl.

These Caprese Bites were a WIN! SO worth the time they took for me to make!

Declan had a great time of course!

He wasn't sure what to make of EVERYONE looking at him and singing.

This is how he decided to tackle the cupcake.

We really are fortunate to have so many wonderful friends to share these times in our lives with!

Wednesday, June 20, 2012

Dear New, struggling and soon-to-be Moms

Dear New, Struggling and Soon-to-be Moms,

I wanted to sit down and say some things to all of you. I remember what it was like to be a new mom. I remember all of the advice coming from every direction. I remember all of the old wives tales. I remember all of that second guessing I did because everyone had a different opinion on how to do things.

There are going to be days where you feel like a failure, but you're not. You feel that way because you want to do all of the right things for your child and you care. You're a great mom.

Just because someone says "It was good enough when you were a baby" doesn't mean it is the best thing. So do your research and be confident in the decision you make for your family.

Do what works for YOU and ignore all of the unsolicited advice.

Your baby is going to make you tired... SO tired. They are going to cry and scream and poop all over you. They can't help it.

It's ok if you have a bad day. It doesn't mean you're a bad mom. We all have bad days. But it really is all worth it, I promise.

It's OKAY to want some time alone. Really.

You really don't need half of that baby stuff you spent way too much money on.

Breakmilk poop DOES stink, just not as bad as formula poop.

Newborns poop out of all brands of diapers.

We ALL check to see if our sleeping newborn is still breathing. It's not just you.

I know you want to lose the baby weight, but eat the damn snack once in a while. You deserve it.

Baby farts are always funny.

Pediatricians don't always know everything.

Don't beat yourself up if things don't go as planned.

That fantasy you had before having the baby about how blissful it would be... you know, that thought that was not at all like the reality is. All of us had it too.

You'll get sleep again. Someday.

Who cares if your hair is a mess sometimes. You're still beautiful.

Even the "perfect" moms aren't perfect.

We all learn and grow as time goes on raising our children. We learn new things. We wish we had done some things differently. We change things we do. It's all part of it. None of us know everything but we should share what we do know with each other, so we can all continue to grow.

Don't be so hard on yourself. You're doing a good job.

Tuesday, June 19, 2012

To cut... or not to cut. That is *the* question

Hold your horses intactivitsts.... This is NOT about circumcision. Carry on.

I am speaking of my soon-to-be 4 year old son's hair. It has not been really cut since early September. It is getting long. The longer it gets, the prettier the big spiral curls get. I ADORE it. He could use a trim, but I really don't want to CUT it off. Despite him being dressed in very boy-ish clothes, wearing very boy-ish shoes and him not having any bows or the like in his hair, while standing along side his sister all decked out in pink with bows... people still call him a girl. I feel kind of bad when people call him a girl, but I really don't care that much. He is a handsome little boy and the hair really fits the rock star that he is. It's crazy and messy and adorable. Him being referred to as a girl isn't enough of a reason for me to chop it off. I love his hair so much that I even had a nightmare that my husband went and had it cut off really short!

I have to decide if I will ever be able to bring myself to cut it off. I think ideally, I'd like to keep growing it and when he's old enough to want it cut off (if he does) donate it to Lock of Love. Hmmm.

Would people thinking your son was a girl be enough of a reason for you to cut his hair?

Wednesday, June 6, 2012

The insanity that is my life lately

Insanity... Yes, that is probably an appropriate word. My husband has been working insane hours, including weekends. (Too bad the military doesn't pay over time! Lets not talk about the day he had to stay until almost midnight to finish something by morning that had been dropped on him in the afternoon.) The kids aren't taking him leaving before they wake up and coming home after they are supposed to be in bed particularly well. My kids, who I can take anywhere and know they will be angels, have been randomly acting as if they are possessed or something. The fighting... ooooh the fighting. Some days aren't bad and others have been terrible. We chose to live in Navy housing to be close to work, so that he could come home for lunch. It hasn't happened much lately, but when he does make it home for a quick lunch, the kids are quiet as can be! I swear they do it on purpose!

In other insanity news; Two of my cousins now hate me. One being my godmother and the other, her adult daughter. This is pretty interesting, really. I've never done anything to them and over the past year and a half or so, I've heard pretty terrible things they have said about me, but I chose to ignore them and continue trying to have a good relationship with them. Of course, they always managed to take things I say or things I'm passionate about personally or as a personal attack on them (like my feelings for MYSELF in regards to natural child birth, breastfeeding etc.). I still tried and tried to be nice to them. I tried being helpful in regards to Navy life, since the daughter is a new Navy wife... everything I ever said, was twisted of course. The final straw for me, were comments to other people about my children and my most recent miscarriage. I called them out on it and the daughter immediately blocked me on facebook (That doesn't scream guilty or anything, mhmm.) and has her wall loaded with posts aimed at me... the person who she blocked LOL. They are now playing victim, when I never did anything to begin with. At first I was hurt, but now I am amused that they have turned it around and are saying nasty things to as many people, including family, as they can. They've just done the same thing to more family members recently. By now, everyone knows who the problem is. Keep on burning those bridges. Eventually the friends of theirs who have been around for years will realize they say lousy things about them also and they'll be gone too.

Moving on... Last month, my uncle Jerry passed away. I had not seen much of him in recent years, but as a little girl I just adored him. He lived a hard and fast life, so really, it was impressive that he lived into his early 60's. I was sad nonetheless. He was so sick, though. It is comforting to know he is no longer suffering. We were able to make it to his memorial service. I have been far away for so many deaths of family members. I was glad to be there this time.

Between my husband never being home and family drama, my life has been a bit crazy. Thank goodness I love my husband and children more than words could ever express. It makes all of the rest much easier to deal with. All of the insanity aside, I really am a lucky woman.