Wednesday, June 20, 2012

Dear New, struggling and soon-to-be Moms

Dear New, Struggling and Soon-to-be Moms,

I wanted to sit down and say some things to all of you. I remember what it was like to be a new mom. I remember all of the advice coming from every direction. I remember all of the old wives tales. I remember all of that second guessing I did because everyone had a different opinion on how to do things.

There are going to be days where you feel like a failure, but you're not. You feel that way because you want to do all of the right things for your child and you care. You're a great mom.

Just because someone says "It was good enough when you were a baby" doesn't mean it is the best thing. So do your research and be confident in the decision you make for your family.

Do what works for YOU and ignore all of the unsolicited advice.

Your baby is going to make you tired... SO tired. They are going to cry and scream and poop all over you. They can't help it.

It's ok if you have a bad day. It doesn't mean you're a bad mom. We all have bad days. But it really is all worth it, I promise.

It's OKAY to want some time alone. Really.

You really don't need half of that baby stuff you spent way too much money on.

Breakmilk poop DOES stink, just not as bad as formula poop.

Newborns poop out of all brands of diapers.

We ALL check to see if our sleeping newborn is still breathing. It's not just you.

I know you want to lose the baby weight, but eat the damn snack once in a while. You deserve it.

Baby farts are always funny.

Pediatricians don't always know everything.

Don't beat yourself up if things don't go as planned.

That fantasy you had before having the baby about how blissful it would be... you know, that thought that was not at all like the reality is. All of us had it too.

You'll get sleep again. Someday.

Who cares if your hair is a mess sometimes. You're still beautiful.

Even the "perfect" moms aren't perfect.

We all learn and grow as time goes on raising our children. We learn new things. We wish we had done some things differently. We change things we do. It's all part of it. None of us know everything but we should share what we do know with each other, so we can all continue to grow.

Don't be so hard on yourself. You're doing a good job.