Tuesday, January 17, 2012

Organization!

I have a borderline obsessive need for organization. It makes everything run that much smoother. When everything has a place, it's easier to keep things clean! Those cube storage shelves (from Target, Lowes etc.) are pretty handy and don't look too bad for "cheap" decor/furniture.

I did a minor little revamp in the kids school/art room. I needed more storage. I don't like leaving anything that could cause a potential disaster or be dangerous to the little ones, out in the open. Everything needs a place!


Here is the school/art room! It's nothing fancy, but it's really great for the kids! There are still some things I plan to do with the room, but I am happy with it so far.



I love the canvas drawers/bins so much. Really. This stuff makes me happy LOL.


Monday, January 16, 2012

My rays of Sunshine

I came across this picture on my phone, that I took back in the summer, in South Carolina. I thought it was just so beautiful and I had to snap a picture, even if it was just with my phone.



My mind went on a bit of a poetic path, if you will, coming across that picture now, considering what I was dealing with last night. Looking at those parted clouds with the beautiful rays of sunshine, shining through, kind of gives me a peaceful feeling. It makes me happy.

Yesterday evening when some dark clouds were moving over me, my rays of sunshine came through to bring me some peace.



Now, before people start wondering if I'm smoking something here... I'll explain. I'll try not make this semi brief (but it'll still be long I'm sure). I'd rather not give any more satisfaction to some people.

My choice to be open about the fact that we have some debt (that we are positively working on) and openly talking about little financial concerns that have come up in the past, like needing a bigger van when we found out we were pregnant for Declan, was used to shame me. I had a little freak-out about the van thing. I was worried. We figured it all out. We pay every one of our bills, we do not receive any assistance, we have a roof over our heads, we have healthy food in our home and our children have all of what they need and much of what they want. We are taking the right steps to move in a positive direction to get out of debt. We have a plan, so yes, sometimes when something comes up that puts a kink in the plan, I get a little worried. I'm a worrier, that's who I am. We save for things so we aren't using credit and adding to the debt (like the table situation for the kids where I was irritated that the price went up right as I was ready to buy it and some amazing online friends helped out.) I am honest about our situation because I don't want to pretend I am something I'm not. We're making it, we're ok... we just don't have lots of money to blow. Do we have to plan and be smart about things? Yes. We aren't so comfortable that we can be care free and not plan, but we are taking care of what has to be taken care of. Our children are well provided for and we will ensure that any future children we may have, are well provided for as well.

Anyway, I'll continue... I commented on a friend's ultrasound picture on facebook, about wanting another baby. Someone who I only know because of a military message board and mutual friends, (who I had unfriended a while back because she only ever commented on something of mine to be negative) decided to take the opportunity to publicly attack/shame me via comments on this photo. Rather than quote, I'll just say, the gist of what was said is that she can't believe I am talking about wanting another baby when I can't afford the children i have... *insert record screeching halt*. Nope, I've never said that, because it's not true. I corrected her and she said I complain about it all of the time and I'm not responsible about choosing to have my children. That is untrue, but whatever. This conversation was not one to be had on a mutual friend's ultrasound photo. In fact, it wasn't one to be had at all, because 1. I unfriended her so that I did not have to have any contact with her. 2. It's false and 3. It's none of her damn business. After a little while I decided that blocking her was the best decision. Because I blocked her, her friend (who I thought was a friend of mine) posted a very long-winded comment on my wall about how we can't afford our kids, we aren't going to be able to take care of them as they get older and how we're irresponsible etc. All while throwing specific things, like the van situation (which was more than a year ago and we handled on our own) out there to support her claims. Someone else who barely even knows who I am, chimed in, in agreement. Basically, we can't afford our kids and we don't have the right to have another because we aren't caring for them properly and we're irresponsible.

All in all, it was down right mean, entirely unwarranted and completely unsolicited. There was more, but I don't feel the need to really keep going with it. It was a perfect example of 40-something year old "mean girls". They had their facts wrong and twisted my situation to fit their attack. All of it was done under the veil of "Well, you put it out there...". Thanks, but I didn't ask.

So, here is some clarity. We can afford our children, We DO think and act responsibly when considering another. We DO have a plan for the future. Do we run into some hiccups now and then? Yes. We're human and we aren't wealthy.
One final thought on this. You aren't paying my bills, we are, and they are ALL paid. We're not on any type of welfare or assistance whatsoever. We have a roof over our heads (and we own a home in SC) We have 2 reliable vehicles, one big enough for my whole family, plus some. We not only put food on the table, but we put HEALTHY food on the table for our children each day. Our children are well taken care of and incredibly loved. What it comes down to is this. What I do with my uterus and my checkbook is absolutely none of your damn business.


I should not have even had to explain myself and I will not again.


Some wonderful friends came to me both privately and publicly, supporting me. The people who really know me, know just how false the things they were saying are. They know that I think of my children first in every single thing I do. I was feeling quite beaten down and I appreciate each and every one of them. Thank you all for being my rays of Sunshine when I needed it.








This is not here for debate and I expect anyone who feels the need to attack me, to just hit that red X at the top right corner and leave. Any attacks on here will be deleted and I will disable comments if necessary.

Saturday, January 14, 2012

Letter to the mother at Target who let her teen daughter laugh hysterically at the man with Tourettes

I am pretty much horrified over how disgustingly insensitive people are.

Dear mother who let her teen daughter laugh hysterically at the man with Tourettes in Target today,
     
     You should be ASHAMED of yourself. Not only have you not taught your daughter (12 or 13 maybe?) compassion, but you clearly missed the mark on manners as well as common decency. The fact that you walked along allowing her to loudly laugh hysterically and comment "Oh my god, I can't take it!" while standing at the end of the very isle this man who was ticking and his family was standing in, trying to pick out bedding, is down right despicable. I stood there staring you down, so I know you didn't even as much as make a motion to tell her to cut the crap. 


I am so deeply saddened to have witnessed your daughter today. I am even more saddened that I saw you not care at all that she was behaving so poorly. That man was with his wife and 2 beautiful little girls (who were behaving wonderfully BTW!). He is clearly uncomfortable to be ticking from his Tourettes while shopping. He doesn't need people like you and your daughter to make him feel worse and to make him more uncomfortable. His family doesn't need to be made to feel uncomfortable. 


Educate yourself. Learn some compassion. Just be a better person.


Sincerely,
Someone who possesses some compassion and common decency. 
   


This girl, no crap, stopped at the end of the isle this man and his family were standing in, stared at him and began laughing hysterically at him, walked a few steps and stopped again, still laughing.  Said "Oh my god, I can't take it!" while still laughing very loudly. Her mother just kept right on going as if this was acceptable... This man and his family were shopping for bedding for one of the little girls. He was conversing and ticking. I have seen him before in Target and the last time he was Christmas shopping with his wife and a woman old enough to me my mother made fun of him to another shopper. I quietly shamed her for that. Today I bit my tongue because I didn't want the family to hear me and feel any more uncomfortable.

I am very sad to see how many people are just so insensitive, rude and down right cruel.

Wednesday, January 4, 2012

Homemade Cinnamon Rolls - Bread Machine Recipe

I finally found the perfect bread machine cinnamon roll recipe. I messed around with a couple of different recipes to come up with this one. This is not allergy free for my 7 year old, but it doesn't have soy or barley, so he had one, even though it has eggs and milk. I need to try tweaking this recipe to make it allergy free for him and see if it works out. Anyway, here is the recipe! They were SO GOOD! Not healthy, at all, but a tasty indulgence!

The picture is deceiving... These are pretty big!


Dough

1 cup plus 2 tablespoons of milk
3 tablespoons of canola oil
2 large eggs lightly beaten
1/2 cup of sugar
4 cups plus 2 tablespoons of flour
1 teaspoon salt
3 teaspoons rapid rise yeast



Filling

4 tablespoons of melted butter
1/4 cup of sugar
2 - 4 tablespoons of cinnamon
I honestly don't measure the cinnamon and sugar, I just sprinkle it until it looks good to me.



Icing

3 teaspoons of milk
1 1/2 cups of confectioners sugar
4 tablespoons of melted butter
1 teaspoon of vanilla
Adjust milk if it's too thick to fully mix well.



Put the dough ingredients in the bread machine in the order that they are listed above and run on the dough cycle. After the dough is finished, roll it out into a large rectangle. Spread the melted butter over the rolled out dough and sprinkle the cinnamon and sugar evenly over it.

Roll the dough and cut into roughly 1 1/2 inch sections. I get 12 out of this. Butter and lightly sprinkle sugar on a baking sheet. Place cut cinnamon rolls onto the baking sheet, close together. Bake at 325 for about 22 minutes (remember that ovens vary. So watch them and take them out when they begin to get a light golden brown.) Spread the icing on as soon as they come out of the oven.