Saturday, October 5, 2013

Broken People

As I have gotten older and have had more experiences, both good and bad, I have learned and realized a lot of things. One of those things is that broken people, break people.

So many times I have wondered what it is that makes someone want to or even enjoy or get fulfillment out of breaking other people. Tearing them down, breaking their spirit, hurting their feelings... just being mean because they can. It has recently really clicked with me, that those people are broken. Something in them is broken in some way.

I teach my children to have compassion. That is something I really want them to grow up with. True compassion for others. I've realized that we have to have compassion for those broken people, even if we are the ones they are trying to break. And I'll admit, it's hard. I'm still working on that. It's easier to be angry than it is to find compassion within myself for that bitter broken person. It's hard to find that compassion when you see them doing it to others as well.

So here is my advice, that *I* also need to take. When you see that broken person trying to break you or trying to break others, search within yourself to find even a small bit of compassion for them. Think about what it might be that has them broken inside and is making them that way. We can't fix everyone and sometimes I think some people can't be fixed. But a little compassion might be a little glimmer of hope for them to try to fix themselves.

We're all a little broken sometimes.


Unknown said...

Well, that is what is meant by the old adage "Love your neighbor as yourself." We are very quick to make excuses for our own bad behavior. We sympathize with ourselves when we are acting less than perfect to others. We say "We'll I'm having a bad day." or "I'm just under so much stress I just can't deal with others nonsense right now!" Loving other as ourselves is about making those same indulgences for others as we do ourselves everyday.

IMakeLotsOfBabies said...

To me it's more than just excusing it, but realizing that they are broken.